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What Does It Mean When You Dream About Snakes?

Dreaming About Snakes

When you dream about snakes, chances are that the meaning of what you just dreamed about is related to challenging issues and feelings that you’re facing in your daily life.

According to Freud’s classic dream interpretation theory, a snake featured in a dream represents a phallic symbol that could relate to a male figure, male energy or how you experience your sexuality.  Interpreting what your dream about snakes means does not stop there however. To fully understand its meaning, you need to look deeper into the interpretation of this rich symbol.

What Does it Mean to Dream about Snakes?

To get start interpreting what dreaming about snakes means, here are the most common meanings associated with snakes in dreams:

  • A snake is a symbol of the unconscious
  • Snakes or serpents indicate you’re in the process of healing and resolving issues
  • The snake is a symbol for an untamed part of yourself or an untapped resource
  • Snakes could represent your intuition or spiritual aspects of yourself; your instinctual drive, what moves you from the depths of your soul
  • Snakes or serpents tend to show up in dreams in times of transition and transformation
  • From the classic Freudian perspective, a snake or serpent is a phallic symbol







Generally, a snake featured in a dream means that you’re dealing with a difficult situation or unsettling emotions in your waking life. On the positive side of this dream analysis, dreaming of snakes could also mean that healing and transformation are taking place.

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3 Keys to decode the meaning of your snake dream:

  1. Look at general dream meanings.
  2. Translate the elements of your dream into meaningful dream interpretation clues.
  3. Connect the content of your dream with your daily life.

If you know how to interpret your dream, you may discover ways to resolve these issues and encourage your personal growth. Like the snake that strikes when it feels threatened, the presence of the serpent in your sleep symbolizes a wake up call to look at fears about your own feelings or a threatening situation in your waking life.

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What does it mean when I dream of a snake?

If you feel fear when you see the snake in your dream, it indicates that you are having difficulties facing the unknown or uncertainty in your life.

 

When the presence of the snake in your dream is neutral or friendly, it suggests that you are dealing with fears or concerns with assurance. It is an indicator that healing is taking place.

If you’re dreaming of a wild snake, it may denote negative aspects associated with the animal, such as worries, fears or concerns about something that going out of control.

If you’re dreaming of a pet snake, it could relate to an opportunity for healing or positive changes in your life.

When you are fighting with a snake, it means that you are resisting a change or struggling with a decision or feelings in your waking life. It may represent a power struggle in your intimate relationship or at work.

Being chased by a snake means that you are facing an intimidating situation in your life that is haunting you. Emotions that you have not dealt with are coming back at you.

A dream of being attacked by a snake, it could be calling you to explore a challenging situation in your life and how to deal with it.

If you are dreaming of being bitten by snake, it means that you need to pay attention to something that you’ve been avoiding because it was too intimating or uncomfortable.

If the snake spits its venom at you, it suggests that there’s a negative influence in your life that’s difficult to handle. It may represent a “poisonous” relationship or negative words or rumors around you.

Talking to a snake suggests that you are engaged in a process of understanding higher knowledge about yourself and your world. It indicates that you are open to receiving information of a more mystical nature.

If you have a dialog or if the snake talks in your dream, it signifies that your potentials are being realized and your opening up to new possibilities in life.

For more interpretation of snake dreams, consult the snake dream meanings section.





Connect your Snake Dream with your Life

Here are dream interpretation hints to guide the analysis of your snake dream. A general interpretation method consists in associating traits that belong to the animal you dreamed about with situations in your waking life or aspects of your personality. You may find that the following generic snake characteristics are present in your dream, as well as in your daily life.

  • Snakes are wild, untamed animals that cannot be trained. They are beyond our control.

Interpretation hint: Look if you are currently experiencing feelings or a situation that feel that way in your waking life; look withing to see if you need to pay attention a an untamed part of yourself that needs more space to express itself or develop harmoniously.

  • Snakes are unpredictable. They tend to strike by surprise; they appear unexpectedly and disappear as fast as they showed up.

Interpretation hint: Can you associate these qualities with a fear you may be having or your own behavior when facing a challenging situation?

  • They primarily evoke aversion and fear in humans.

When snakes and humans meet, there’s a danger that the snake will attack, mostly as a reaction to fear or feeling threatened.

  • Snakes move close to the ground and are associated with the earth.

Interpretation hint: Feel into your own connection with the earth; whether you feel grounded, with your feet on the ground or not; how you relate to your primal instincts.

  • Snake shed their skin when they grow, leaving behind the old during their transformation process.

Interpretation hint: Snakes are great symbols for personal transformation; look at what’s changing in your life or in yourself or what you hope to change or leave behind in order to move on.

  • Some snakes’ venom is poisonous, even deadly, if they bite.

Interpretation hint: Death or the fear of dying in a dream is not to be taken literally. It’s often symbolic of the death of the old and the opportunity to leave behind what you no longer need. It could also represent grieving a loss of something or someone who was important to you.

  • They possess the antidote to their own venom.

Interpretation hint: Often, a challenging situation is also an opportunity to discover something new and take on an opportunity. Look at how this relates to your life right now.

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Conclusion: Key Points to Enhance your Dream Interpretation

Here are two key points to refine the interpretation of your dream.

Reconnect with the Snake in your Dream

The snake featured in your dream is most likely a transposed image or symbol of something that’s actually happening or preoccupying you in your daily life. It’s important to remember and recall the presence of the snake as it was in the dream.

For example, you can project yourself back in the dream, recall all sorts of details about what the snake looked like, how it was moving, how you were feeling. You could even imagine you can ask the dream snake questions about its intentions, what message it has for you, etc. This will get you started in decoding what the snake in your dream could symbolize.

Snake Dream & Call from the Unconscious

When interpreting a snake dream, a key point is to keep in mind that the serpent in your sleep means you’re symbolically receiving a wake up call from your unconscious.

Dreaming about a snake is usually an indicator that you need to pay attention to something important that you perhaps have been avoiding or that has escaped your awareness until now. Interpreting your dream will help you discover what it is and what you could do to about it.

When you’re dreaming of a snake, you can use your interpretation to encourage positive changes in your life. A snake dream can function like a two-sided coin: For each negative feeling in the dream, such as fear, apprehension, anxiety, or confusion, there’s an opportunity to realize something positive that will serve you in your waking life.

Bonus: Snake Symbols in Popular Myths and Traditions

The symbolism in a snake dream is primarily anchored in the personal life of the dreamer. Because the snake is a powerful symbol in many traditions and cultures, a snake dream can also be influenced by a wider meaning given to the snake or serpent in one’s culture.

In the Judeo-Christian tradition, the snake tempted Eve in the Garden of Eden. It is tinted with negative connotations and a symbol for temptation, evil, and sin.

In the Hindu tradition, Lord Siva wears a snake around his neck, as a representation of the control of dark forces and temptation. It also symbolizes the power of kundalini, the life force.

In ancient Greek mythology, Medusa is a Gorgon, represented as a woman with snake hair who can turn into stone whoever she looks at. According to the psycho-analytic perspective, it is a symbol for castration or repressed sexual energy.

Another popular Greek myth is about Aesclepius, Greek god of healing and medicine, who inspired rituals where snakes were used. Today, the rod of Asclepius is what we know as the Caduceus, symbol for modern medicine. In our dreams, it represents the opportunity for healing.

The feathered serpent from the Aztecs of South America is a symbol for the creator of life.

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Still Confused about the Meaning of your Dream?

If you’re still confused about the what your dream means after researching symbol definitions and dream dictionaries, don’t panic. You can post your snake dream below and get feedback from other dreamers passionate about dream interpretation.

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3997 Responses to Snake Dream

  • Sana

    I saw last weak a drsam about yellow cobra snake I felt so fear of that,and snake bite on my left foot.. anf last night again I saw black and white two snakes and one is black snake I felt so fear even I crowed too much and I lost my voice with frar.my mother hold the snake with their mouth I am telling to my mom mom pleas don’t snake can bite you..so plz tell me about my these dream

  • Akhil

    I saw that many little snakes are glued to my body all over and i trying to detach them. Some of them are detached when i moved into water while some are still there and i am detaching them by my hand and doing so, i felt as if they are trying their best to not leave my body. this is going on…

    • Irina

      I dreamed of a huge white snake that came to me and tryed to eat me . My half body was in in his mouth until my employer hit him with a stone.

  • Lua

    I had a dream that I was a snake killer.
    I demonstrated this though I can’t remember how.
    Then I came across a tan, large copperhead.
    And began to try to kill it. It turned into a cute cat, then back into a snake. 
    During which, I saw good thing in it and decided in my heart not to kill it.
    Suddenly a big fat DNR guy in a tan uniform came in put a plastic bubble bag around its head with a button.
    He pressed the button and gas filled the bag and killed the snake. While he was doing it, I started crying NO NO NO. Don’t kill it.
    And then I went outside this house. The house was a narrow several story building with rectangular long windows. And it
    Was in the middle of this run down neighborhood. Large chunks of glass were in the backyard. There were
    Houses and electrical poles everywhere. I was still screaming NO. then I realized I needed to stop. I stop, woke up

  • Swathi

    A snake was dancing on my head n even I was playing with that happily

  • Anonyma

    I dream of a snake flying. Sometimes its coming towards me and sometimes its going away but it is always peaceful. It doesnt hurt me or anything it just flies. The size varies in the dream. Sometimes i dream that it is a normal size snake but sometimes it is bigger and has crocodile like skin. I would like to know what this means.

  • Anonyma

    I dream of a snake flying. Sometimes its coming towards me and sometimes its going away but it is always peaceful. It doesnt hurt me or anything it just flies. The size varies in the dream. Sometimes i dream that it is a normal size snake but sometimes it is bigger and has crocodile like skin. I would like to know what this means.

  • Maggue

    I dreamed I was in my barn and saw a huge rattlesnake lying under debris and my cousin rescued me by getting the very large dead rattlesnake out of barn.

  • German Mitev

    I dreamed about a lot of small snakes, on of them bite me, after that there were a big snake that tried to atack but missed and i hit her hard.And there were my bag full of snakes?

  • Kevin

    I dreamed that my girlfriend and I were swimming in the ocean when we saw a small snake. It was moving but not really towards us. When I look at it again, I notice that the snake we saw earlier is only the tail of a bigger one. It was huge blue snake being held by few people. I look at it with wonder as it’s color is bright as the ocean. Then suddenly they lost the grab on it and it began to chase us. We swam back to the land and hide as people is screaming with fears. I really believe that this dream has something to tell me but not sure what it is.

  • Sebastus

    I had a dream where there were a lot of snakes of different kinds and colors, some where in baskets, some crawling around. I was a little afraid because of the quantity of snakes, but they were all calm, one seemed to approach to me but it did not attacked me or bite me. They were on top of each other like they usually are but I am not sure what the dream really meant. Can someone help me analyze this dream?
    Thank you!

  • Jam

    I dream about a snake a yellow snake that’s looking at me and he just at front of a whole sand at first i was shock but then i can’t say that i feel scared maybe a little because their something that i feel that he is not going to hurting me and then later on there a snake again that’s comes out in front of me and it was like he is going to protect me from the yellow snake and this time this snake is color like dark color snake and then they stared at each other and i heard the yellow snake talking to the dark color snake that “you’re brave huh” and then tha yellow snake called the other snake as a backups and they fight and then i leave to that place.

  • Pisces16

    I dreamed a tons of black snake and a a large one on the pool. And I must pass through to get on the other side and get something at the end of the hallway, I have a two companion at that time. The other one carries me and the later one kills the smaller snake one by one. while passing it seems like the snakes at even the large one are trying to avoid us. And we’re able to pass the pool. We even tried to get back and forth but we never got our goal at the end of the other side.

  • Cancer

    I dreamed about a snake who attack me several times. Everytime it attacks me i shouted for help and hold the snake and throw it away but it always come back and attacked me again.

  • Sam

    I keep dreaming the a snake is being pulled out of me; and I really am so scared of snakes

  • Vivi

    I dreamed I was at home. Then there are kittens (red and black). The red one came towards me and the black one seemed more shy was 1 meter away fron me. Then there was a snake . He was just there doing nothing. He wasn’t even try to hunt or to hurt the kitten..
    As I went to the maindoor I saw an other medium-sized snake (dark green a violet glimmer). He has something in his stomach. For me he ate a kitten!!
    As I looked at him while asking my mother if there weren’t kittens missing she said “no”. The snake just moved away from me on my direction. He wasn’t afraid of me nor were I. I didn’t feel any anger, fear… I was neutral

  • anu

    i have seen a snake who is turned back n watching me

  • Ash

    Ok so I’ve been having simmular dreams for the past few months but recently I’ve been having them more often, alsmost every night. Now, I was born year of the snake so that explains a few things but my dreams revolve areound a older version of me, or what I hope to become and where ever I go I always bring a pet snake, which I named Timothy Brown. In my dreams I love this snake dearly and bring him everywhere I go, I loved it so much I built snake tanks in every room of the house for Timothy to rest in while I do things. I even bring him outside with me in a special bag made from the same material as potato sacks, inside is shredded paper and hot pack to keep him warm but Timothy does tend to crawl around my body as I walk. I brought him everywhere that allowed it and I adored him. What does this mean? I’ve never owned any exotic pets but I loved him as much as I would a family member. Help?

  • aby

    last night i dream , a snake, and it swallow the chicken in the poultry..and we (i dont know who i am with because its not clear).we want to kill it but it go the grass and go..but it pass beside me.and we already kill it and the skin of it has change.. it is positive or negative.

  • Pvt123

    I dreamed twicely in a week that a snake is on ground floor..and going in its way.. and some times it jumped and sometimes it saw me like(i can’t express ), I was scared.. plz give me suggestion .. it is positive or negative ?

  • Priya Sanju

    I always dream of snakes. It is always the bit same…i am in a house..and there are lot of snakes rolling in the ground…everywhere… colourful snakes…they do not harm me…and like always i get to the bed crossing them…saving my feet from them.

  • Cara

    I had a dream that I was in the ocean and someone handed me their snake, asking me to help it give birth. As I was holding and carefully guiding it with my hands, it bit me 4 times on each knuckle of my right hand, but I never flinched and finished helping it… Then I woke up.

    Recently I’ve come to yearn for independence and self knowledge, breaking away from a chaotic path I’ve come to realize I’ve taken too many times before… any insight would be most appreciated.

  • Reddy

    Saw a three headed snake what does that mean?

  • Jermaine Hatch

    I just had a dream about snakes..However in my dream their were people I know that also seen the snakes..They didn’t pose any harm they were just everywhere we went.
    Seems as though it wasn’t any escaping them..Many different species of them..

  • Margaret

    I saw three rattle snakes in a rooom with a large green snake coiled up.the rattlers head was up but non threatening. I walked out the building and told a man good luck

    • Veronica

      I had a dream that i was i had a snake in between both hands with my left hand holding one and the right hand holding the other and i was trying to rip the snake apart, it was not fighting or trying to bite me at all, i was trying to rip it apart and it wouldnt tear, can someone please tell me what does this mean

  • Yosenju

    I just had a dream like this. I was walking in a forest path and there was a bridge. I had no where to go but the bridge in front so I went on it. As I am walking on it, I happen to see a few strands on black and white over the bridge every now and then. As I get to the end of the bridge, there were three huge black and white snakes around the end. The first one just hissed, the second tried to crawl on my head, and the third tried to bite me in the neck. I don’t know if the third one bite me or not, because I woke up the moment I saw the snake lunged at me. The time was 4:40 A.M.

  • Choki Dema

    I saw a snake in my dream ,it’s colour is light green or light yellow was not very clear it was in the dark.
    It happened to me like I was going out to urinate with my grandmother in my dream.suddenly before urinating I felt something holding onto my left pant of my leg ..percieng with the flank but did not bite me because I whispered quickly to my grandmother to take off the snake then she did it quite with difficulty the snake even was trying to cling onto the right hand of my grandmother however my grandmother manages to remove it finally and then I woke up and I wondered what can be the significance. …it made me worry a lot ….And the very morning I had a misunderstanding between me and my husband…..Was that because of the snake dream?

  • Mia

    Last night, I went to sleep listening to a guided meditation to connect with my higher self. This is the dream I had:
    I was in a town I didn’t know and met a couple of guys that were staying at the same hostel. The hostel looked like a friendly witches’ house, with lots of dried flowers and potion in colorful glasses. There was a big old trunk and we decided to open it. It was full of snakes of different sizes and colors. They crawled out the box and we were trying to find them to put them back in. They were bidding everywhere: under the tables, in the lamps, on the ceiling. Some were rolled up a bunch together making one body with different heads. Some snakes looked like cats (and miawed) and some would say words I didn’t understand. I was not afraid but some were aggressive.
    Last night I got in an argument with a good friend who is depressed and I was sad about the while thing.
    Any ideas what all this means?

  • Maricris

    I dream about a big black anaconda snake and he bite my neck. then i wake up after what happen.

  • mediliny nduna

    I dreamt of a big snake moving across my neck, straight to my son, who immediately moved away from it.I saw a small part of the moving repitile but l could tell from the sound it was making that it was a rattle snake.Upon turning to my left, l noticed my husband was shaking from the bite of this snake.l picked my car keys and pulled my husband, trying to get him to hospital.When people around me told me he is dead, all l kept saying was, my husband is a fighter, he will never die on me.As l am pulling him, l feel this heavy thing on my head and l push it down, to my surprise, its supposed to be the big snake that killed my hubby but it looks like a very small rattle reptile and l wake up in fear

  • Jhuzzele

    Hi!
    I dreamt alot of snake two days ago at first it was just crawling from ceiling to wall in every corner of the establishment there was snake, then it was suddenly hunting me,that one is really poisonous and I felt terrified by then the snake try to catch me in criss cross motion when i thought i was bitten i suddenly woke up.

  • Michelle

    I dream i found a box of small snake and I took them home as pet , they were all calm
    Then I woke up .
    The time on the clock was 5.55am , my daughter always interpreted this time as the letter s , it would have been 5.55= s.ss , wiered .

    • Monika

      Hello Michelle,
      this is weird…
      last night I dreamt of a snake crawling up to me and I was unsure about whether it was going to bite me.
      I seized it and saw that it didn’t seem to be aggressive. Next thing was it was crawling up to my face and sort of kissing me. It was in fact tender and friendly.
      I woke up, the time on the clock was 5:55…

  • Bizuayehu Negash

    I saw a dream when I took out a snake from my aunt which is very very big by my hand.What it mean, please?

  • DAVID

    I Dreamt That My Dad Thouht He Had Seen A Snake But We Didn’t Take It Seriously. So Few Munites Later, I Saw The Snake And I Was Overshadowed With Fear. The Snake Didn’t Harm Anyone, It Climb On Top Of The Refregrator While We All Ran Outside. As We Ran Out, We Closed The Down Behind But Somehow The The Snake Got A Way Out Under The Door, When It Came Out, There Was Another Little Black Snake In Its Mouth From My Mum Started Looking For Help We Even Met One Of My Aunt Who Had Died 4 Years Ago And She Was Directing Us Where To Get Help. Mind You The Snake Didn’t Attack Anyone I’m Just Not A Fan Of Snake. Please Help Me I Am Disturbed

  • Sayarose

    I came to a field that had really cool clothes stringed up , the clothes were for sale so I was looking at them, when some people started showing up to also look. I was about to leave but decided to move to another part with less people because I hadn’t seen all the interesting clothing , when I started noticing snakes coiled up in the grass, I was terrified and quietly tried to go around them … when I was almost back to the street to safety.. people started noticing them and freaking out which caused the snakes to start attacking .. I was able to climb up on top of a picnic table with some others … before I woke up

  • Adewale Awolola

    I had a dream seeing many snakes all at once at different locations. I saw a rattlesnake and the others I cannot say their names. The rattle snake appeared twice, the second time I saw it entering the ground.  The others were in some for of static display attitude. I was scared but didnt wake up with so much fear.
    Please I need a translation to this.
    Would appreciate.

    • Kalpana Joshi

      I saw many snakes of different types but most in pairs. Colour was brown and sone were spotted .They did not bite. Some hanging from the ceiling and some were crawling. time was 5:22am. I was a little afraid. Little confused do not exactly remember but some one said ‘will not bite’.

  • Bobby

    I had a dream about a black cobra hiding in a wicker bag. I am sure this snake was in a few of my dreams but now I know where it hides. In the dream I felt glad I saw it hiding and decided not to let anyone know it was there.

  • sangita

    I was travelling in a bike to one place a infinite number of snakes are chasing me,I changed the route even though its chasing me..I was so afraid that time .now am so confused pls say the actual meaning of my dream

  • Sahil

    yesterday i had a dream with few around 4 or 6 person me had a golden colored cobra in my hand and debating how to kill it so we chopped it tail n its fang then, i started taking it to my house then a big around 5 feet tall light brown color big healthy cobra appeared we both were facing each other with chopped small cobra still in my hand then slowly i moved back words just did few steps then the big snake to went off.

  • Krystle

    I had a dream that I was camping on a big boat on the ocean with a bunch of girls that I knew. A snake came over the side and was being wild, showing it’s teeth and dancing around. I tried backing up and getting away but it came straight over to be and bit me right on my stomach. I can’t remember what happened right after that but then I remember continuing on this boat and trying to fall asleep and being scared there was going to be another snake around.

  • Cynthia Wilson

    I dreamed that I was in a room full of people, I think they were coworkers, I looked on the floor and saw a tail in between a couch and a wall. It was hiding. I looked closer, it was a black snake with some white on it. Someone was next to me and was talking to the snake. The snake came out hissing. The person next to me had its tail and I kept telling the person to step on the snakes head. The snake was mad and kept chasing me. I think he bit me once. I ran outside and asked some men outside playing soccer if they could come inside and kill the snake. They said yes. They told me not to worry and they would kill it. They took the snake outside and went to the roof of the tallest building, the snake was now unconscious because of the height and no longer fighting. The man jumped off of the building and flew to the ground with the snake in hand and killed it. I remember looking up and saying, “I should have known to take the snake higher.”

  • smita dave

    before few days i saw a snake with open mouth. and now yesterday i have seen that i had a pot of milk, i had been trying to pouring milk in snake’s mouth and a snake try to reach to flowing milk but milk flowing just beside d snake not in mouth.

  • Kayleen

    A few nights back I had a dream that I was in a room with my grandparents and suddenly 3 black a brown snakes appeared. They moved over what looked like a body lying on the floor. They were coming towards me and my grandparents. In the room there were sofa’s and ornaments. My grandparents and I managed to kill the snakes. So I sat down on a sofa to catch my breath and suddenly a hooded cobra appears and is about to strike me on my neck, it moved swiftly on the sofa and right as it is about to strike me I wake up. This is what I dreamt of on Wednesday. Today is Saturday and I found a fat green snake in my kitchen and I am scared to death.

  • Kayleen

    A few nights back I had a dream that I was in a room with my grandparents and suddenly 3 black a brown snakes appeared. They moved over what looked like a body lying on the floor. They were coming towards me and my grandparents. In the room there were sofa’s and ornaments. My grandparents and I managed to kill the snakes. So I sat down on a sofa to catch my breath and suddenly a hooded cobra appears I am a doctor but and is about to strike me on my neck, it moved swiftly on the sofa and right as it is about to strike me I wake up. This is what I dreamt of on Wednesday. Today is Saturday and I found a fat green snake in my kitchen and I am scared to death.

  • Abigail

    I dreamed I was in the driveway at a stranger’s house. In a tree branch hanging low over a car I see two snakes hissing at each other like they going to fight. One green and one yellow. The green one flares out big scales all over his body kind of like an artichoke. The yellow one doesn’t flare, but strikes and kills green one. Dead snake falls at my feet then I notice there are lots of little baby snakes on the ground and I am trying not to step on them.

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